Life as a House

Directed by Irwin Winkler New Line Cinema, 2001 124 minutes Kevin Kline, Kristen Scott Thomas, Hayden Christensen, Jena Malone

It is easy to compare "Life as a House" with such films as "In the Bedroom", "American Beauty", "Grand Canyon", "My Life", or "The Ice Storm" because these movies share many elements, from structure to cinematography to plot to characters to dialogue. It’s familiar territory (especially for Kevin Kline.) Simply put, a middle-aged man faces a crisis or death, looks for meaning and changes his life... sometimes in order to leave a legacy of love.

In "Life as a House," this thesis brings together a mixture of likeable, weak characters along with unsavory ones doing drugs and having inappropriate and illegal sex. There's some bad language and lots of bad attitude, too. Everyone is searching for interior freedom. The film could have been called, "life as a toilet" or bathroom for all the action that takes place therein. However, this movie is no blithe South Park. The toilet represents the depths to which the main characters have sunk. The shower activity is a kind of sign for cleansing action but jumping into the ocean is the fulfillment of interior transformation.

The story rolls out amidst a very obvious parallel, therapeutic style plot structure. To effect change, to move from unhappiness to happiness, fired-architect George (Kevin Kline) decides to tear down his old house and build a new one in its place. He demands that his druggie, pierced, eye-shadowed son, Sam, spend the summer with him to carry out a bigger, deeper project: to get Sam to love him again. The house-building project is a metaphor for the changes in George’s interior life and one by one, the people around him.

After recently seeing "In the Bedroom" and "Monster’s Ball", I have to place "Life as a House" in the category of the year 2001’s heavy-duty emotional dramas. Enough already. But the difference between "Life as a House" and the other two is that you have *to like* this one, even for its faults. Some of these are, for example, the traditional Hollywood ending that leaves us feeling pretty good, the metaphor of the "house" and the "moral of the story" that are just so obvious. On the comfort scale, "In the Bedroom" and "Monster's Ball" were far more difficult films, harder *to enjoy* in the regular Hollywood sense.

The thing is, "Life as a House" worked for me. The different generations talked about all the issues that "American Beauty" didn’t, for example, how young people can feel as if they are "nothing" and how parents need to be parents regardless of their own "needs." Maybe it "talked" a little too much, true and perhaps the script was too predictable and not as tight and sharp as it could have been. But the characters in the film find ways to communicate, albeit some are not always desirable such as the shower scenes; the high school pimp and car sex; the drugs; the older woman having sex with a teen aged boy. I did not feel these were necessarily gratuitous though they were certainly uncomfortable - but therein is their strength as elements that move the story ahead. 

Most of the characters grow and change and become capable of generosity and love. When it becomes obvious that George will not live to complete his project, he tells his son, "Finish it, Sam", and we know that though Sam may not do exactly as is father wants (keep the house after it is finished), he will do what his father hoped for (I can’t tell you this or I’d give away the final plot point.)

Kristen Scott Thomas is not one of my favorite actresses, but she does a credible job here; Hayden Christensen and Jena Malone are two young actors who will go far.

On the down side, here is another guy movie, about the interior journey of white, Western men as the symbol for universal human experience. Ho hum. Good media literacy point and a challenge to the creative community, both male and female.

"Life as a House" was not a commercial success, but it’s a movie I would recommend for thoughtful mature movie-watchers. There’s much to talk about, such as parenting, relationships, life-death, drugs and other self-destructive behavior and how positive human interaction (love as communicative action) can help others, and self, to be transformed. These issues and more are dealt with in the film and even if they are not resolved as well as they might be for some viewers, the overall experience of the film is a positive one because it shows that it’s never too late to change. Life isn’t perfect either. Human freedom and responsibility are put into balance here and it is good to take time to just "be" so we can then be present to others. Our eyes and ears are opened to the humanity around us. As George tells his son:

 "If you were a house, Sam,
this is where you’d want to be built…
on a rock, facing the sea. Listening."
 April 8, 2002